Limitations, Disadvantages and Advantages

Friends are special people who make a bond and mark in our lives. They are either looking behind us like a brother or a sister, a helping hand and a crying shoulder. Most of the time, we share the time, problems and happy moments with them. But together with that there are certain limitations. A little may hurt and a lot can lead to total destruction of the relationship one way or another. We must always remember where to stand, when to speak and when to meddle. The irony is, we can give them the comfort and but we can never give them the solution to the problem so why make it worst? Every time there is a battle, should we put our armor as well and fight side by side knowing we do not have the weapon? Should we pour fuel to the raging fire? No. We should always weigh things. Being friends does not necessarily demands a person to be a "kakampi". In my opinion, there's nothing wrong in taking sides as long as you know the whole story and base what you think is right according to ethics or moral. But to literally make "sawsaw" and act as if the person was there? It wont do anything good, trust me. It will lead to more complications and make the scene far more bigger. more fucking drama!

Another thing, when it comes to love relationship of the other, we cannot dictate the matters of the heart but we can only ease the pain. Although we can make ourselves instruments of blossoming love like cupid or be the bridge to put them together. However, we must take it in that being so does not entitle us to put ourselves in their shoes then make decisions for them nor should we try to ruin their relationship just because you dont like what's happening. Only two people know what really happened, how they feel and we should let them face whatever they may have. Tango is for two people, not three and certainly not four.

Being the constant companion, we are subjected to the saying "birds with the same feather flock together". Yes, most of the time this is true but not all. Some of the traits and qualities maybe similar but due to human complexity we can never find another exact match that match all like a clone. I also believe that this saying comes true becomes the other tolerates or goes with the flow with the behavior because of the term "pakikisama" (likely evident on cliques, groups, barkadas and tropas that are composed of more than two people). It can either be an disadvantage or advantage. If the other becomes blind with the wrongs she or he sees then becomes influenced and sooner adapts the bad habits its likely an disadvantage. In another situation, if the other is consistent, persistent, refuse and even try to persuade his or her friend then its definitely an advantage and is considered true friendship.

A friend will never cause you harm, teach you wrong or lead you to your own humiliation. He or she will never take advantage of you, abuse and use you.

A true friend accepts you for who and what you are regardless of your appearance and social status. He or She is there whenever in need without any hesitation and expects nothing in return.